Schedule Naked Cuddling Time With Your Partner to Solve Your Lack of Desire
And I've dropped the 2cd chapter of my sex memoir, "Sex-Starved."
I recently published a piece on Medium regarding mismatched sexual-response styles. This was after reading a wonderful article by the sexologist Gigi Engle in Men’s Health.
In a nutshell, some people are always up for sex. Others need more time to warm up.
Engle points to the terms coined by relationship coach Dr. Patricia Love — sexy-body and sexy-mind — to describe the difference between sexual-response styles. Having a “sexy-body” means a person is always ready for sex. Having a “sexy-mind” means they need much more to build up to it.
So how does a sexy-bodied partner maintain a healthy, happy, fulfilling sexual relationship with a sexy-minded one? Obviously, this is where many relationship impasses occur.
Engle suggests scheduling naked cuddling time.
Naked cuddling time.
The idea is not to schedule sex per se. Don’t force arousal.
On the contrary, by scheduling naked cuddling time, this gives the sexy-minded partner time to get in the mood for sexual touch.
Just by being naked in bed together, embracing and feeling each other’s skin — this is an effective way for the sexy-minded partner to get into their sexy-body.
The focus isn’t on having sex but on connecting.
I think is excellent advice for partners who are struggling with different sexual-response styles.
Read my full article here on Medium.
My sex memoir on Wattpad.
Some of you may also be aware that I’m compiling the story of my dating sex life after my divorce and publishing it on Wattpad. The memoir is entitled, “Sex-Starved,” and I’ve just published the second chapter: The Healing Properties of Shower Sex With a Man I'd Just Met.
That said, I know you are inundated with “content” these days. You have the work of many other writers to read. I’m honored you’ve chosen to spend a few minutes reading my stuff.
So thank you.
—Mysterious