Stay in a Sex Hotel With Your Partner to Cure Your Sexual Rut
Yet another way to reignite the spark in your long-term relationship.
The desire for sex with your long-term partner so often dwindles over time. That is why I’ve recently suggested two ways that people can reignite that dying spark.
They can…
As such, you can imagine my delight when I saw Medium writer Anne Shark’s story about curing her sexual dry spell by staying in a sex hotel with her partner.
What’s a sex hotel?
But first, what’s a sex hotel? There are literally hotels around the world that cater only to providing a place where people can have sex.
No, these aren’t cheap, hourly rate motels. Here’s an article where you can read more about them.
Shark describes the room she stayed in at her sex hotel:
The rooms are spaced out over the property, each one, its own little house.
Walking into our room, we take in the giant jacuzzi, the equally giant, glassed-in steam room, the massage chair, the king-sized bed with towels formed into the shape of swans perched in the center, and the mirrors which are everywhere. There’s not a single window looking out.
But of course—the point is not to look out but to focus in on what’s going on inside the hotel, right?
But how can a stay in a sex hotel help sexless relationships?
I think it’s pretty easy to understand why a stay in a sex hotel can help a couple reignite their desire to have sex with one another.
It’s exciting to spend time in a hotel that celebrates sex as its raison d’etre.
It gives a couple the space to dedicate just to sex.
A sex hotel’s facilities promote sex—and experimental sex at that.
How did staying in a sex hotel help Anne Shark’s relationship?
Shark and her partner made the most of their stay in a sex hotel by showing up with a plan. They aimed to focus on Sensate practice, yoni massage, and photographing one another during their night in a sex hotel.
I would definitely promote the idea of having a plan. If you’re dedicating the time and space to dealing with the loss of desire in a relationship, then knowing what you’re going to be doing during that time together is crucial.
Even though there were bumps in the road—uncomfortable feelings, even a headache—for Shark while at the hotel, she powered through them.
That’s the thing—you have to go into an experience like this with an open mind and the understanding that not everything is going to be perfect.
You’re going to the sex hotel because desire is dwindling in your relationship. Keep your expectations low, so you don’t trigger more disappointment.
But this isn’t to put a damper on your stay. In Shark’s case, her time in a sex hotel with her partner was good for them. It gave them the space “in which to focus completely on each other, away from everyday distractions.”
Recapping.
If you happen to find yourself in a sexual rut with your partner, I would heed Shark’s suggestion and book a room in a sex hotel.
Or any hotel for that matter.
But if you do, make sure to:
have a plan.
accept you’ll have to work through some uncomfortable feelings.
I’d add entering into this endeavor with an open mind and an intention just to spend time some quality together.
What do you think? Do you agree? Let me know in the comments.
And stay tuned for a sexy story about my own experience at a sex hotel arriving in your inbox soon.
—Mysterious Witt