This provides a valuable perspective for me. I've been very much like your ex-husband. While I haven't slept with multiple women, I have had brief encounters of a D/s nature (me as the sub) with a few (20+ years ago). I continue to have online encounters even though I know this disgusts her. I think to myself, if she'd just have sex with me, or at least some flirting or other intimacy, I could get over that. Your experience shows me that my infidelity is the cause of her lack of desire. I'vr bren at it so long, though, I'm not sure I can pull myself away from the porn. I need to try, though. Thanks for shsring your experience.
Hi, thanks for your comment. I think you're probably watching porn because of the lack of intimacy in your relationship. I've written a lot about how happy relationships are a two-way street. Both partners need to build intimacy in their relationship for it to work. Otherwise one partner is most likely going to cheat. The "cheating" might come in the form of porn-watching. Is it cheating if your partner is walling you out? For a happy relationship, you would have to focus more on your wife. But she'd have to be willing to have you focus on her. She'd have to be willing to have sex with you again.
This provides a valuable perspective for me. I've been very much like your ex-husband. While I haven't slept with multiple women, I have had brief encounters of a D/s nature (me as the sub) with a few (20+ years ago). I continue to have online encounters even though I know this disgusts her. I think to myself, if she'd just have sex with me, or at least some flirting or other intimacy, I could get over that. Your experience shows me that my infidelity is the cause of her lack of desire. I'vr bren at it so long, though, I'm not sure I can pull myself away from the porn. I need to try, though. Thanks for shsring your experience.
Hi, thanks for your comment. I think you're probably watching porn because of the lack of intimacy in your relationship. I've written a lot about how happy relationships are a two-way street. Both partners need to build intimacy in their relationship for it to work. Otherwise one partner is most likely going to cheat. The "cheating" might come in the form of porn-watching. Is it cheating if your partner is walling you out? For a happy relationship, you would have to focus more on your wife. But she'd have to be willing to have you focus on her. She'd have to be willing to have sex with you again.